I am over here! making my dreams come true!!!!
No… I have not taken a three month world cruise that prevented me from writing my blog, nor have I eschewed the online world for the glaciated, unconnected wilderness of Denali National Park… I am neck deep in that which scares me (and excites me- perhaps I should flip those) the most…..
Things with Synchronis.tv are moving marvelously ahead.. I couldn’t be happier or busier or more challenged, intellectually, emotionally or spiritually… but what about my blog which prior to this had been partly focused on my video blog, “Question of the Week”?
The whole point of “Question of the Week” is to help people explore some of the perhaps subconscious thoughts that keep us from being all that we dream of being. “Question of the Week” is on hiatus as I push forward with my dream…but why not continue this blog by telling everyone about some of the amazing people I have met along this journey who share my mission in some way or another?
I have met some incredible people during this past year, but one that stands out is Sharon Melnick… here’s her picture..
I was attracted to Sharon before I knew what she did because she exuded such confidence and kindness and positive energy. It turns out that not only is she amazingly generous with her time and assistance but…. she is a psychologist affiliated with Harvard University, whose life’s work is to help talented and successful people get out of their own way!
I have to add a few !!!! here.. cuz !!!!! anyone who can effectively help other people to become the person that they always knew they could be …. that is simply an invaluable resource… imagine if you could achieve the things you dream of doing… the things you know you were put on this earth to do…the things which, if you were really honest with yourself, are only denied to you because of your own self-imposed limitations.
I think the implications of that are enormous.. not just on an individual level, but a universal one.
So first…If you head to Sharon’s site, the first place you have to go is to the “Are You Getting in Your Own Way” quiz… lets see.. yes, yes, yes, yes… I checked off far too many options.. umm, yeah.. I am my own harshest critic..umm, yeah there is someone I’m working with who makes me feel disempowered, which brings up feelings of incompetence and failure … do I need to go on?????
Ok… so the quiz is fun and a little um.. disturbing cuz I checked off far too many things.. But then… pop, in your email box comes not only an assesment of your answers, but a 10 chapter pdf with discussions about what causes us to behave in all these ways that don’t serve us… and some really fantastic suggestions about what we can do to change that behaviour. It’s all totally free… its all totally inspired, and made me feel a few breaths calmer, more hopeful.
As you may know if you read this blog I am a full fledged believer that the deeper and more courageously you strive to know yourself, the greater the ultimate personal awards. This is what Sharon’s work is all about…
I think Sharon is fantastic, and I profoundly admire what she does with her life… I know she is currently building an invite list for her next free workshop so if this sounds like something you are interested in head over to her website and let her know!
I am amazed, as I move forward with synchronis.tv how HARD it is to in effect say to the world WHO I AM IS ENOUGH… I am worth your investment, my vision is valid, and I deserve the things I dream of… I’m not complaining.. this has been an unbelievably rewarding journey which surprises me daily and is quickly becoming bigger and more magical that I’d even dreamed… but how fantastic it would be if everything was taken out of the equation but the TRUTH-
I was put on this earth to realize my dreams, and everything I need to make those dreams come true already resides within me, all I need to do is unearth my naturally given resources.
I think Sharon can help us do that……
“Once we really understand happiness as a satisfaction of needs, maybe fewer people will expect other people to make us happy. Instead, happiness can be achieved by taking control over ourselves and our choices, good and bad.” – Whitney Hoffman
Has the inimitable Whitney Hoffman already read Victoria’s new book?
Well, no, as it turns out…. Whitney’s most recent post is about Daniel Gilbert’s Stumbling Upon Happiness, but the story ends the same way… the only person who can make us happy turns out to be… um us….
I am so honored to have Victoria as our artist of the week this week. I have had the amazing honor to be present for a number of Victoria’s talks…Victoria is an author and a motivational speaker, I think I can safely say (Victoria…let me know if I’m wrong) that her philosophy encompasses much of the new thought movement but Victoria is different cuz unlike say… Wayne Dyer, who on his show is always “great” Victoria is real person… she experiences, and honors, the fullness of what it means to be human and all the emotions and thoughts that go along with our human existence.
Victoria’s new book “Fat, Broke and Lonely No More” really has nothing to do with being fat, broke or lonely but is rather a funny, touching typically Victorially charming tract on how to break up with the emptiness inside us that we hide with feelings of being fat, broke, lonely, inadequate, ugly, stupid,not enough…. An emptiness we all experience sometimes….an emptiness that is integral to the process of maturing – spiritually, emotionally, intellectually into the person we are destined to become….but that has also seemed to reach epidemic proportions in this country….
I read Victoria and I know I’m not alone, I know I am on the right track, and I am reminded once again that I already have everything I need….
What is the hardest thing I’ve had to overcome???? May 22, 2007
fear… fear… fear…. fear….
In this week’s episode I said it was my twenties in NYC – much of which I spent pacing the streets of manhattan, crying…feeling hopeless, lost, worthless and desperate … working so hard to make my dreams come true, only to confront failure after failure after failure (or so I perceived it)…
but in retrospect, were those feelings anything other than fear in another form?
Boiled down to its common denominator…
Fear that who I am isn’t enough?
(and I wondered why it seemed no one wanted to hire me????!!!)
Once again I have embarked upon an adventure that is exciting, revolutionary, creative, the quintessence of what I believe I was put on this earth to do…
will I let my fear overcome me?????
What inspires you? May 7, 2007
“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be”…
or so said Ralph Waldo Emerson…
what inspires you? We want to know…
click on the pic to watch on veoh, or on the icon in the sidebar to watch on itunes or watch it autplay at http://www.ifnotnow.net
Two episodes ago I began a new segment on Question of the Week ….wanting to celebrate the vision and courage of other artists who are committed to make a living doing what they love most I have begun featuring the work of an etsy artist every week and asking the artist to participate by answering the weekly question…
In the case of an artist who makes wearable art (jewlery,clothing).. I buy the item and wear it on my show (I neither ask for or want anything for free… my goal is to support artists and that means finacially too) … and I know I have increased traffic to these artists web sites cuz I can track clicks from my sites…
So.. I am offering FREE publicity on a show the artists can be proud of.. guaranteeing that at least thousands of people will be exposed to their work, as well as “artist of the week” status on both ifnotnow.net and this blog…..
These artists have nothing to lose and everything to gain…
and yet… we have no “artist of the week” in last weeks show.. why? I contacted TWO, count them TWO different etsy artists (a jewlery designer whose work I have bought and wore in last weeks episode and also a photographer) and neither even bothered to return any of my emails.
Why do you think these artist turned down the opportunity for greater exposure?
My theory… our greatest fear is our own success…
Yucko – the ying and yang of Rachel Ray and YouTube April 2, 2007
I found a post on one of my favorite blogs, 100 blogging babes, that I can’t get out of my mind… despite having commented on the blogging babes site. This particular post was by the delicious French Kitchen in America, in which the writer wonders why it is that Rachel Ray gets such a bad wrap….
Yes, the EVOO and the eyeballing and the “yumo” stuff are a bit much. So? You don’t have traits that annoy people? (I know I do!)
But really, is what she’s doing really so bad? I mean, not everyone can afford to buy top quality, organic items. Rachael Ray seems to be showing people how they can eat fairly decent food without spending a lot of time or money.
but to that I reply….
I don’t think the Rachel Ray backlash is so much about her food…….I think lots of people can appreciate an easy to cook meal that doesn’t break the bank…
I think its the cuteseyness…. and why? Cuz I think it sends a message that deep down Rachel Ray doesn’t think who she is is enough, (more…)
The most courageous thing I’ve ever done…. March 28, 2007
When Nick and I shoot I try very hard not to think about my answer to the question of the week (see previous entry) before he turns the camera on me… often I am completely surprised by what comes out of my mouth.. and generally that spontaneity results in really, really honest answers… but not always. When reviewing the footage, I can always tell if I am not telling the full truth by the the way I hold my mouth… if I am holding back in any you can almost touch the tension….
so… if “producing my own show, because I finally decided that I was enough, and didn’t need anyone else to decide that for me”, wasn’t the most courageous thing I’ve ever done what is? (more…)
What’s my greatest fear March 20, 2007
Failure… not being all that I was meant to be… never having had the courage to defeat my inner demons and live the life I was destined for…..looking back and saying “what if?”.
Even writing this makes me feel queazy and dark…..
Funny… cuz I have a lot of more obvious, more obviously terrifying, more everday fears.
As I kid I panicked myself to sleep every night…I’m not kidding… every night… thinking every plane that went over head was a nuclear bomb about to drop. Then I would have nightmares about being buried (more…)