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Because we were born to realize our dreams…

Empowering talented and successful people to get out of their own way… July 14, 2007

No… I have not taken a three month world cruise that prevented me from writing my blog, nor have I eschewed the online world for the glaciated, unconnected wilderness of Denali National Park… I am neck deep in that which scares me (and excites me- perhaps I should flip those) the most…..

Things with Synchronis.tv are moving marvelously ahead.. I couldn’t be happier or busier or more challenged, intellectually, emotionally or spiritually… but what about my blog which prior to this had been partly focused on my video blog, “Question of the Week”?

The whole point of “Question of the Week” is to help people explore some of the perhaps subconscious thoughts that keep us from being all that we dream of being. “Question of the Week” is on hiatus as I push forward with my dream…but why not continue this blog by telling everyone about some of the amazing people I have met along this journey who share my mission in some way or another?

I have met some incredible people during this past year, but one that stands out is Sharon Melnick… here’s her picture..
sharon melnick

I was attracted to Sharon before I knew what she did because she exuded such confidence and kindness and positive energy. It turns out that not only is she amazingly generous with her time and assistance but…. she is a psychologist affiliated with Harvard University, whose life’s work is to help talented and successful people get out of their own way!

I have to add a few !!!! here.. cuz !!!!! anyone who can effectively help other people to become the person that they always knew they could be …. that is simply an invaluable resource… imagine if you could achieve the things you dream of doing… the things you know you were put on this earth to do…the things which, if you were really honest with yourself, are only denied to you because of your own self-imposed limitations.

I think the implications of that are enormous.. not just on an individual level, but a universal one.

So first…If you head to Sharon’s site, the first place you have to go is to the “Are You Getting in Your Own Way” quiz… lets see.. yes, yes, yes, yes… I checked off far too many options.. umm, yeah.. I am my own harshest critic..umm, yeah there is someone I’m working with who makes me feel disempowered, which brings up feelings of incompetence and failure … do I need to go on?????

Ok… so the quiz is fun and a little um.. disturbing cuz I checked off far too many things.. But then… pop, in your email box comes not only an assesment of your answers, but a 10 chapter pdf with discussions about what causes us to behave in all these ways that don’t serve us… and some really fantastic suggestions about what we can do to change that behaviour. It’s all totally free… its all totally inspired, and made me feel a few breaths calmer, more hopeful.

As you may know if you read this blog I am a full fledged believer that the deeper and more courageously you strive to know yourself, the greater the ultimate personal awards. This is what Sharon’s work is all about…

I think Sharon is fantastic, and I profoundly admire what she does with her life… I know she is currently building an invite list for her next free workshop so if this sounds like something you are interested in head over to her website and let her know!

I am amazed, as I move forward with synchronis.tv how HARD it is to in effect say to the world WHO I AM IS ENOUGH… I am worth your investment, my vision is valid, and I deserve the things I dream of… I’m not complaining.. this has been an unbelievably rewarding journey which surprises me daily and is quickly becoming bigger and more magical that I’d even dreamed… but how fantastic it would be if everything was taken out of the equation but the TRUTH-

I was put on this earth to realize my dreams, and everything I need to make those dreams come true already resides within me, all I need to do is unearth my naturally given resources.

I think Sharon can help us do that……

 

Happiness- or breaking up with the emptiness inside a la Victoria Moran May 31, 2007

Once we really understand happiness as a satisfaction of needs, maybe fewer people will expect other people to make us happy. Instead, happiness can be achieved by taking control over ourselves and our choices, good and bad.” – Whitney Hoffman

Has the inimitable Whitney Hoffman already read Victoria’s new book?

Well, no, as it turns out…. Whitney’s most recent post is about Daniel Gilbert’s Stumbling Upon Happiness, but the story ends the same way… the only person who can make us happy turns out to be… um us….

I am so honored to have Victoria as our artist of the week this week. I have had the amazing honor to be present for a number of Victoria’s talks…Victoria is an author and a motivational speaker, I think I can safely say (Victoria…let me know if I’m wrong) that her philosophy encompasses much of the new thought movement but Victoria is different cuz unlike say… Wayne Dyer, who on his show is always “great” Victoria is real person… she experiences, and honors, the fullness of what it means to be human and all the emotions and thoughts that go along with our human existence.

Fat broke and Lonely no more

Victoria’s new book “Fat, Broke and Lonely No More” really has nothing to do with being fat, broke or lonely but is rather a funny, touching typically Victorially charming tract on how to break up with the emptiness inside us that we hide with feelings of being fat, broke, lonely, inadequate, ugly, stupid,not enough…. An emptiness we all experience sometimes….an emptiness that is integral to the process of maturing – spiritually, emotionally, intellectually into the person we are destined to become….but that has also seemed to reach epidemic proportions in this country….

I read Victoria and I know I’m not alone, I know I am on the right track, and I am reminded once again that I already have everything I need….

 

What’s the hardest thing you’ve had to overcome? May 21, 2007

Shall you? Did you? Can you? A question submitted by our user Saneeta, What’s the hardest thing you’ve had to overcome???

ok… so this is kind of a heavy one…but the question was submitted by an ifnotnow.net user… which is fantastic… and once I got over the fact that this show is a little heavier than most I grew to love it!!!!

and hey…we have an awesome single of the week, and a simply extradorinary artist of the week.. and a happy ending!!! check it out!!!!

click on the pic to watch on veoh, or on the icon in the sidebar to watch on itunes or watch it autplay at www.ifnotnow.net

 

Negative thinking? or simply TRUTH? May 1, 2007

Ok.. i get what he’s saying… in fact I totally, passionatly agree with what he’s saying… but Dr. Atul Gawande, this months guest columnist for The New York Times, uses his column today to spin empty cultural vernacular on its head only to invent an equally empty and ineffective cultural vernacular.

In his column Dr. Gawande decries the officials at Walter Reed, saying “The real puzzle was how one institution could be responsible for helping to save the highest percentage of battle-wounded soldiers in history and for providing such disturbingly neglectful care afterward”… Dr. Gawande’s prescription… accepting the value of “negative thinking”

We Americans believe instinctively in the power of positive thinking. Whether one is fighting a cancer, an insurgency or just an unyielding problem at work, the prevailing wisdom is that thinking positive is the key — The Secret, even — to success. But the key, it seems to me, is actually negative thinking: looking for, and sometimes expecting, failure….

…Encouraged by leaders to think negative, medical staff members … reported on transport problems for the injured, soldiers’ not wearing their Kevlar, communication glitches, unexpected infections — and instituted changes to address them. The result: they are saving soldiers who’d never have been saved before….

Contrast this with the same leaders’ approach to care afterward. The independent review group found zero effort to track how soldiers were doing in rehabilitation. No one pushed to discover failures. As a result, failures were unrecognized, yet everywhere to be seen. The review group found the same problems The Washington Post had: disorganized, bureaucratic care with glaring gaps; dismal living conditions; dangerous staff shortages.

Negative thinking!!!???? That’s not negative thinking.. it is having the courage to honestly look at what is true… Very, Very different things.

An example of negative thinking?

“I’m not good enough”…

A statement that bears no truth whatsoever and is in fact wholly defeatest. That is negative.

Honestly assessing a situation, recognizing its strengths and its weakness and using that knowledge to affect important, often life saving, change… that is POSITIVE!

Why are so afraid of anything that doesn’t feel good that we have to label it as negative? Truth is beautiful… truth is always positive, if sometimes painful. Only by having the courage to look at what is TRUE, not what we want to be true, not what other people tell us should be true…but what we know deep in our guts is TRUE can we find both the wisdom and the courage to effect profound change, in our lives and in this world.